Overview of the Surrogacy Process for Gay Men and Couples
The following guide will outline the Georgia surrogacy process that gay men and couples use to have children of their own.
1. To begin your journey to parenthood, gay men and couples could begin by contacting one of the many in vitro fertilization (IVF) clinics or surrogacy agencies that have experience in this process. IVF clinics and surrogacy agencies work very closely with each other and will be able to provide excellent references.
Many couples choose to begin with the surrogacy agencies — no matter where you go be sure that all your questions and concerns are addressed to your satisfaction.
2. Make sure that you, and if you are a couple, your partner are well aware of each aspect of the IVF and surrogacy time line, process and procedures you will encounter.
3. If you are a couple, be sure you have decided which parent will provide the sperm. It is also possible to have both partners provide the sperm –having half the eggs fertilized by one partner and half by the other.
In this case, one embryo from each partner can be planted into the surrogate mother for gestation. A physical examination and sperm analysis will be done on anyone providing sperm as well as a review of that individual’s medical records.
4. A surrogate may be found through the IVF clinic or surrogacy agency, or you may select a surrogate from someone you know.
5. Egg Donors are often chosen from among the family members or friends, however these can also be found through the clinic or agency, that keeps a database of possible donors and surrogates. The traditional method chooses one woman to be the egg donor, surrogate mother for gestation and is artificially inseminated as opposed to IVF.
In other cases, the egg donor is anonymous. In these cases all communications and arrangements will be done through the agency.
6. Once you have found a surrogate that you feel just right about, it is time to head on over to the law offices and have your contract drawn up by a qualified attorney. It is very important that you select a surrogacy attorney with experience in the field of surrogacy law. Funds must be provided to the surrogate for her fees and expenses throughout the gestation and contract period –most often these will be in a trust fund.
Most surrogacy agencies will be able to help you in this regard –it may also be prudent to draw up legal contracts for the egg donor you choose to work with, if she is anonymous or not.
7. If at this point you have not already found a reliable IVF clinic to work with, search our directory for an extensive list of options for clinics near you.
8. Time to collect the medical records from the egg donor and the gestational surrogate and deliver these to the IVF clinic. Again, if all the arrangements for egg donors and surrogates has been done through the agency, this will be handled by them.
9. Prior to the IVF, you the parent along with the surrogate and possibly the surrogate’s partner will undergo some counseling to orient all parties to the process and remove any uncertainty. This will often be through the surrogacy agency –use this to sign any consent forms and review the process together.
10. The egg donor and gestational surrogate will be given contraceptives and hormones to synchronize their cycles in preparation for IVF.
11. Six to nine weeks after the hormones have been administered, the eggs will be taken from the donor to be fertilized in the lab and implanted into the surrogate.
12. Two weeks after the eggs have fertilized and implanted, a blood exam will be administered to the gestational surrogate to verify pregnancy.
13. Three weeks after the first positive blood test has been taken, a ultra sound will be performed to confirm the presence of a growing embryo. If the surrogate is not in need of clinical attention her care will be transferred to her obstetrician for the duration of the gestation.
14. For the rest of the pregnancy the surrogate will be in the care of their obstetrician, you will be able to negotiate the level of participation you and your partner have in this period with the surrogate.
15. The Birth of your Child. Huge Congratulations .